Dink7When my soul sisters and I decide to indulge in some major girl time, this means an overnight stay somewhere, a lot of food, the music of our youth (hello 80s!) and the inevitable trip down memory lane. The older we get, the fewer such “play dates” become, but we unanimously admit that we need them now more than ever. In the past, pyjama parties in college meant mourning  yet another failed accounting or math exam, or some other academic tragedy. Later on, as live took us down separate paths, we needed the overnight stays to reconnect with each other and ourselves. Now in full swing of midlife, we are all desperate to detach ourselves from “real life” from time to time and indulge in the fantasy of being young and fancy free, transporting our spirits to time when dreams were big, age was a silly number, and we were fearless (well, relatively so).

There comes a time in our lives where we undoubtedly ask ourselves whether we can still do, reach, obtain, attain, understand, pursue, appreciate, enjoy certain things that we thought we would never outgrow or swore never to tire of. Sadly, we tend to surrender certain luxuries that used to nourish our souls from within for whatever reason.

The daily rat race drags us away from the gentler things in life, but it is essential that we continue to indulge for as long as we can, lest we become old, cold and bitter. So here is a checklist to assess how much soul time you are giving yourself:

Does your home 

  • speak to the soul 
  • nurture your spirit 
  • provide a haven for creativity
  • have a place you can call “sanctuary”

Are you able to do this at least once a day

  • Enjoy a sunrise
  • Celebrate a sunset
  • Savour food without simply gulping it down
  • Cherish a flower bud
  • Drink your coffee without rushing
  • Do a good deed
  • Make someone smile
  • Pray from your heart
  • Do something just for yourself 

Can you still

  • Find joy in playing with mud or sand
  • Dance in the rain
  • Smile back at a child
  • Be amazed at the generosity of others
  • Cry over a romantic movie
  • Jump to the music of your youth
  • Be spontaneous
  • Sigh over clean sheets

“Let us savour the most fleeting delights of our most beautiful days”

– Alphonse de Lamartine (1790-1869) from the book Gratitude Prayers by June Cotner

*the checklist was originally published on July 27, 2014 on blogspot.

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